It’s a hot topic and usually aimed at girls, but modesty is for boys too. How do you teach your son respect for himself, his body and how that reflects on his character as a Christian?
First I think we need to realize that girls have sexual thoughts too about young men. When they see a bare chest or those speedos on a guy they might like or “think is cute”…his lack of discretion with clothing himself is contributing to that in the same way as girls who show thighs, bare shoulders and cleavage.
I like the way this author put it….
“This is strange. Women may be shedding clothes this time of year, but so are men. Why are we only talking about female modesty? If modesty is important then it is important for all Christians. If it isn’t important for men, then why all the fuss about women? If it is important for women, why the silence about men?”
Exactly! Why are we excluding our sons from the issue of modesty? I don’t know…I think we’ve just accepted that it’s no big deal. But for our young girls, our women, it can be a big deal. They are sexual beings too and our sons must learn to respect that. In a post by a minister regarding the teens where he worships, he overheard one girl say this when she had been at the lake with some friends… “After one lake outing I did hear a faithful girl say, “Wow! ________ looks fiiiiine with those 6-pack abs!” It was clear she was not talking about one of her female friends.”
So Moms…we have a responsibility to our sons to teach respect of bodies. Modesty is a heart issue. It’s a reflection of our relationship with God in the way we dress. Modesty recognizes the weakness of others and would do nothing to gain attention through clothing, or lack thereof, or present a temptation.