Why You Should Not Discipline Your Child.

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*You should not discipline your child IF you want your child to expect  that the world revolves around him/her. 

*You should not discipline your child IF you don’t want him/her ever mad at you.

*You should not discipline your child IF you believe he/she should not have to do something they don’t want to do.

*You should not discipline your child IF you have this idea that no one can tell you what you might could do better and differently.

*You should not discipline your child IF you believe that Proverbs 13:24…. “Whoever does not discipline his son hates him, but whoever loves him is diligent to correct him” is false teaching in the Bible.

*You should not discipline your child IF you don’t care what others think about him/her.

*You should not discipline your child IF you cannot connect obedience at home that will transfer to obedience to God.

 

It has also made me scratch my head when parents “make” their kids get vaccinated, stop them from touching a hot object or hitting their sister, give them no options when it comes to putting on clothes or going to school. But when it comes to molding behavior…so many parents just check out. Here’s some examples…

~Child says NO to parent….Parent starts bargaining or counting.

~Child continues in behavior that parent has corrected…Parents gives them the …”I asked you to stop that…sigh.”

~Child won’t speak to people or ignores you.. Parents excuses with “He’s tired.”

~Child goes into the homes of others and goes into “destructive mode.”  Parent…checked out.

~Child goes into scream mode to avoid doing what parent wants him/her to do….because it works every time!

 

Parenting IS THE HARDEST JOB IN THE WORLD. Will you make mistakes? Oh my…that is a BIG YES! But…there is a responsibility as an adult to BE the adult and discipline your children. It won’t hurt them. It’s what makes them into productive, joyful, compassionate, obedient human beings. Don’t cave parents when it comes to molding the behavior of your children. If you don’t do it…someone else or something else will do it for you and I guarantee you…you will not like the results. Loving your children is firm correction. That’s the truest of love because you see past the moment and look at their future as to who they can become.

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Why I Follow Jesus…

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What is happening in our world is nothing new. Wars…rumors of wars…disgusting behavior from people…persecution of Christians…all kinds of false teaching. How does one survive in such times?

How do I survive day after day?

Well…I follow Jesus.  I don’t follow people or groups of people. Why?

 

*I follow Jesus because He died for me. No man has done that for me.

*I follow Jesus because He loves me. No man has ever proved their love for me more than Jesus Christ.

*I follow Jesus because He provides me with the plan of Salvation. No man can save me.

*I follow Jesus because He hears my prayers and takes them to the Father. No man has that power.

*I follow Jesus because He will never discourage me. Sinful man will always discourage.

*I follow Jesus because His word is all I need to live this life and have eternal life.

*I follow Jesus because in HIM I can find comfort for every issue of life. 

*I follow Jesus because HE forgives and forgets. Man struggles with forgiving and forgetting.

*I follow Jesus because HE will never take me down the wrong path. Man has strayed from God’s word from the beginning of time…and that has not changed.

Who will follow Jesus

Standing for the right,

Holding up His banner in the thickest fight?

Listening for His orders, ready to obey

Who will follow Jesus, Serving Him today?

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HOW TO ENCOURAGE IN ONE EASY STEP

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Sounds like a recipe doesn’t it? Or one of those headlines on the front of a magazine. The fact is, God has not made it impossible to encourage those around us. The apostle Paul tells us to encourage (I Thessalonians 5:11). So how do I do that and why does HE command it of me?

The life of a Christian can be full of joy. Freedom from sin is the BIGGEST reason for that! Those still wrapped up in sin don’t seem to understand the peace that comes with redemption. However, life does have its trials and tribulations and people, more times than not, contribute to that. I am sure you are recounting numerous times it has happened to you. Why does it happen? Well…because people get fixated on themselves. They want the fun life. They want the popular life. They want the “me” life.

Of the 107 times scripture refers to taking action with others….14 of those are about encouragement, which can transform peoples lives. It’s incredible how an action or word can bring joy…or discouragement. I would like to chose the former…wouldn’t you?

So what’s the ONE EASY STEP? Here it is….Philippians 2:3-4…. “Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others better than yourselves. Each of you should look not only to your own interest, but also to the interests of others.”

There you have it…considering others better than yourselves. If we would all practice that…there would be MUCH LESS discouragement and MUCH MORE JOY! Sure sounds like something I want to do. How about you?

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Teaching Modesty to our Sons

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It’s a hot topic and usually aimed at girls, but modesty is for boys too. How do you teach your son respect for himself, his body and how that reflects on his character as a Christian?

First I think we need to realize that girls have sexual thoughts too about young men. When they see a bare chest or those speedos on a guy they might like or “think is cute”…his lack of discretion with clothing himself is contributing to that in the same way as girls who show thighs, bare shoulders and cleavage.

I like the way this author put it….
“This is strange. Women may be shedding clothes this time of year, but so are men. Why are we only talking about female modesty? If modesty is important then it is important for all Christians. If it isn’t important for men, then why all the fuss about women? If it is important for women, why the silence about men?”

Exactly! Why are we excluding our sons from the issue of modesty? I don’t know…I think we’ve just accepted that it’s no big deal. But for our young girls, our women, it can be a big deal. They are sexual beings too and our sons must learn to respect that. In a post by a minister regarding the teens where he worships, he overheard one girl say this when she had been at the lake with some friends…  “After one lake outing I did hear a faithful girl say, “Wow! ________ looks fiiiiine with those 6-pack abs!” It was clear she was not talking about one of her female friends.”

So Moms…we have a responsibility to our sons to teach respect of bodies. Modesty is a heart issue. It’s a reflection of our relationship with God in the way we dress. Modesty recognizes the weakness of others and would do nothing to gain attention through clothing, or lack thereof, or present a temptation.

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I Don’t Think the President Cares

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For the first time in my life, I am wanting to write a letter to the President of the United States…but I don’t think he cares what I think. As we celebrate the history of this country on July 4th, somehow there doesn’t seem much to celebrate about how far we “haven’t” come.

I will always respect the office of the President because of what that office has been designated to do. However, respect has to be earned. My first and foremost allegiance is to God and His authority. I am committed to Him. I love what HE loves and hate what HE hates. But somehow, that has completely turned around. Our country…as it appears…wants to love what God hates. And how does it get that way? Well…leadership has the major impact on that drift. Our President…in just a short amount of time, has taken a country who feared God and is attempting to shape it into a country who spits in His face.

As Christians we are either on board with God’s ways or straddling the fence with the ways of man. Can we not ask ourselves who would best support the values of the Almighty? Can we not take a stand…have some backbone…and say “I am on the Lord’s side…Master here am I?”

Oh I know there are some political issues that will always be controversial. But putting a person in power who will attempt to take me farther and farther away from God, is not up for choosing.

On this fourth of July…we had better be praying publicly about the future of this country and acknowledge Who is really in power. Own it. Be loyal to the One to whom you dedicated your life and make His ways your ways. Otherwise…we are headed for a disaster.

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Neglecting Parents

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I am haunted by something that happened at the assisted living where my Mom lives. I was doing some photography for the facility by taking pictures of their veterans where they proudly display them on the “Wall of Fame.” I had one more veteran scheduled and was waiting. The activities director came to tell me he wouldn’t be coming. “Is he sick?”…I asked. The activities director then informed me of his “sickness.” The problem…he was “heart sick.” Father’s Day had been the week before and none of his children called him…none.

There have always been children who have neglected parents…but, in my opinion, there seems to be more acceptance of tossing parents to the side. Entitlement goes so far to say… “You aren’t worthy of my time.”  Until you are a parent of a grown child, you cannot possibly understand how incidents like the one told, are heart breaking.

Exodus 20:12 says…“Honor your father and your mother, that your days may be long in the land that the LORD your God is giving you.” Do you realize this is a command with a promise. Honoring your parents will allow YOU longer days in the land God gave you. Of all the 10 commandments…this is the one the extra tag on it.  Obviously it was important enough..to God…that HE wanted to make sure we understood the value.

ALL parents have made mistakes. Some of their mistakes have larger consequences…or at least should. However…respect is a must when it comes to dealing with parents. Even as adult children, one can respect a parent without condoning behavior that is contrary to God’s will.

I am going back today to take this man’s picture. His wife convinced him to do it. Every veteran that comes for pictures gets a big handshake from me and a “Thank you for serving our country.” I haven’t found one yet who doesn’t accept that gratitude with humility. I am hoping a small gesture of gratitude can somehow dull the ache of ungrateful children and maybe give him a smile…at least for the moment.

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I Want to be Different so I can Be Like Everybody Else!

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I get weary. I get weary with some who pride themselves in being different only to end up like “everyone else.”  Usually these people will “drop” an idea out there in hopes the rest of us will take hold and go “WHAT?” It’s those folks who like a reaction…they drop a “bomb” in the middle of the room and sit back to observe the frenzy. It’s the desire to be different…unique…intriguing… about themselves.

The reality of it all is this type of “attention getting” makes them just like everybody else because everybody else is not really different. We are like herding animals…a desire to be with one another and “fit in.”

Being “different” doesn’t require any type of grand statement or action. Being different is simple. Following Christ is simple in that it’s not an attention getting…”look at what I do” type of service. It’s a humble spirit combined with a willing heart to serve our fellow man and teach by example. Christians are shining lights in that we illuminate what is in darkness…sin. We are the called out…which should make us different enough to draw others to Him.

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